20-year-old son cuts contact with entire family after years of mistreatment from his older siblings, parents refuse to take sides: ‘They don't want me around’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jul 31, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

There is no physical way for one to remain in contact with everyone in their lives; at one point or another, people are bound to get left behind. It is not necessarily a conscious decision every time it happens; you simply don't get to see or talk to them anymore, and life moves on.

Sometimes, however, the process of removing someone from your life does end up becoming a conscious decision you have to make, especially after you realize having them in your life does you no good. When you come to terms with the idea of saying goodbye to a person you used to consider a friend, or even family, it is never easy to take that final step of finally cutting them out, even if we know it has to be done.

When all the signs lead to cutting contact, it really is better to just do it, and if you are currently considering it, maybe the story below will help you get it over with.

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  • After years of being told he is not wanted by his siblings, this 20-year-old brother decided to take matters into his own hands. Tired of being told he does not belong to the family, he decided to cut contact with everyone, including his parents.

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    AITA for giving my siblings what they want by refusing to spend time around them and their kids?

    I'm (20m) 12 years younger than my sister and 14 years younger than my brother. And I remember them always disliking me. I'm 100% their
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    full bio brother. My parents are my bio parents. That is something I used to ask myself but dad and I did 23&Me to alleviate my fears
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    of that. What my parents think is my siblings were jealous of me when I was born and extended family believe the same. They never seemed that
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    excited and they used to act like I was so crazy and wild and out of control. They even said stuff about me being impossible to control
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    when nobody else was around. But they were never alone with me. They avoided me when I was a kid and moved out while I was still young. But I was maybe 10
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    when they talked about me being a terror as a little kid. They even called me a monster and said I almost put them off having kids.
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    Our relationship never changed. They ignore my birthdays, they ignored my graduation, they didn't invite me to their weddings or baby showers. And they have said
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    in group chats repeatedly that they don't want me around to be a bad influence to their kids. That they don't want their kids to be wild little monsters like I used to be.
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    Everyone has called them on their sh but they say they will not let me influence their kids. Nobody else has ever complained about me as a kid like that. At school I was
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    considered too quiet and shy and teachers struggled to get me social or willing to speak in class. Friends even said I was the quietest and they have zero idea where this comes from.
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    But after years of hearing it, having them avoid me and saying they don't want me around their kids, I have decided I won't be and that anything they attend I will
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    miss so I don't have to spend any time around them or their kids. The rest of my family tells me I shouldn't do that because my nieces and nephews deserve to know me.
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    But it's more of a headache than it's worth and there's no saying we'd be allowed to even say hi to each other.
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    My parents went nuts on my siblings over this and said how disgusting their treatment of me has always been. They told me my siblings are in the wrong and I should just ignore them.
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    But it feels like too much bulls Ito tolerate. So why not give my siblings what they want and live a more peaceful life. AITA?
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    Czechuspamer WOW After 20 years, parents finally grew a spine and told your siblings that they are the monsters, not you. Sad that it took them that long.
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    NTA, your siblings are complete here. Hope the rest of your family will grow a spine as well and give them a slap-back-to-reality check, because they need it.
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    Safe_Artist_1756 So, the behavior and lies your parents and family tolerated for decades is suddenly noticeable? Maybe it's time for Mom and Dad to be the bigger person and cut off the problem. And it's not you.
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    ThisEnvironment6627 NTA BUT DONT be a doormat... don't skip any events cuz they'll be there! Just go and ignore them, pay them no mind and just give them the same energy. Why
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    ruin your relationship with your family because they will be there? They feel so strongly about it they can skip out. Don't give them what they want.
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    Baconpanthegathering NTA. I noped-out of my dad's side of the family like 7 years ago. I mean 100% OUT. Its been the best 7 years of my life. Reasons: similar to OPs, always
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    othered, always an outsider, not cool enough or rich enough, getting left out of plans...treated like an obligation. It worked out great for all parties, I think.
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